For anyone who doesn’t know, I have been working recently in a local school parish as a Behavioral Support Staff, which is just a fancy way of saying that I help the administrators, teachers, parents (family) and students who are having behavioral issues in the school setting. I thoroughly enjoy my job even though it does have it’s ups and downs when you are dealing with people.
What does that have to do with you having your very own super power? Well… let me tell you about that because it’s something that I tell EVERYONE when we talk about behavior. Wait for it…..
Your super power is your ability to make a choice! Sounds simple, right? So why is something that is so simple, so hard to, well, actually do? It comes down to fear. We have a fear of making the wrong decisions as well as having the stress and uncertainty that comes with having to make a decision that others may find objectionable. Sometimes it can come down to determining that what you are doing or seeing or experiencing comes from a conflict of what you value which can (and often does) conflict with someone else’s values. In addition, we can have the fear of uncertainty about how our decision may turn out. We will second-guess ourselves when it comes to the choices that we make.
So, how can we make it easier on ourselves? It’s important to understand that you need to make a choice that is the BEST ONE for you and your family. Is everyone going to be happy with it? No, and that is part of the problem that we all have to contend with, as well. We all have to live with regret on some of our choices, but we can always use those regrets as a way to learn from our mistakes. In other words, the choices that we make (good or bad), can help us to grow in all sorts of ways.
For example, I always used to wonder why I had a need to skip from job to job. Sure, I stayed in them for 3-5 years, but it felt like to me that I couldn’t stick with one job for long. What I didn’t realize at the time is that I was not failing but, instead, taking something from each job and then using it in some way in the next one. It wasn’t until more recently, in which I realized that God had actually been laying the foundation for something bigger at the time. It has come to a point where I can now use the information that I had learned from my experiences and share it with others through what I am doing now.
Perhaps you feel the same about your situation or about the choices that you need to make. There’s nothing wrong with feeling that way at all. It’s hard to be brave when what you are is afraid. Just know that you are not alone. Trust that God will help you when you need to start something new. All you have to do is ask. (Related post: A New Chapter in the Book of Life)
What did I learn from this? The choices that I have made have impacted me in so many ways. I am more confident in my ability to make a hard choice. For me, it’s also a matter of knowing that I can count on God to help me when I do struggle with something. I know that God hears me and answers me. I also know that sometimes that answer will either be a “Yes”, a “No”, or a “Not right now.” I also know that I have the ability to wait on God and trust Him on this journey called life. (Related post: A Blessed Path)
So, what can you gain from this? You can gain your own confidence in the choices that you make. Sometimes those choices will be great and sometimes those choices will be wrong and sometimes those choices will be neither, just sort of in the middle. The thing is…. you can still learn and grow from every choice that you make. That’s the whole purpose of life… learning and growing and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! (Related post: The Seasons of Change)
A Joyful Mission 